The workings of our minds.

Life & Love

The purpose of my life:-

“To love and be loved with a open heart”

“To make the most of all opportunities that life has to offer, including those events that are categorised as bad, difficult and damaging.”

One thing I am sure of, as time passes, we evolve with the lived experiences, bringing us to our truth, through the feelings felt and the knowledge learned, as we journey through life, collecting little fragments of treasure along the way.”

I will live my daily life in acknowledgement of exactly that & I know for sure, it will save me from the noise and clatter of monotonous day to day living, allowing me to see and feel what is truly, worthy of my time & effort. The hidden beauty, even in the hardship.

Individually, it is my choice whether I choose to appreciate and savour the truths that I come face to face with. Whilst I live out my various roles on this planet, whether they be easy or difficult to cope with in the moment.

Invariably we, as humans opt for suppression of those feelings, awakenings and whispers, hushing & denying all there is to be learned, through a range of our experiences. Sheer normality at one end of the spectrum to the most difficult times we need to gather all our energy just to navigate, getting through, regarded as a hurdle to something better.

Pay attention, the something better is here, right now, staring you in the face, hoping that you will just appreciate each & every aspect of your lives, from the ability to wake, walk & feel the air in your face, to having loved ones surround you & just being able to see and touch their faces, or the freedom to cook and eat exactly what you desire.

They are all our daily miracles, the tiny miracles that culminate to lives being truly lived with open hearts and minds.

Wonderful day to each of you.

The workings of our minds.


Droplets of water hanging precariously from a tree, just like diamonds. Both waiting to be adorned.

Visualise it, just for 2 minutes, out of your hectic days. Take your mind to that clear, calm space and imagine just how beautiful the water twinkled clinging on to the branches of a tree.

Hopefully it will bring you back to yourselves just for a moment.

The ability to do that is always there, no matter how busy or pulled you feel to continue in whatever task your absorbed in, just for a matter of minutes, silence your mind and go back to YOU.

It will alleviate stress, fear and daily frustrations, all the while, allowing you to realise that you are much bigger than your tasks or schedules of your day.

The workings of our minds.


HOPE in YOU…….. Always there, waiting for you to acknowledge & access it.

Usually it just takes a mental shift to turn an issue upside down, view it from a differing perspective, a different angle and suddenly it feels possible to process, experience and pass through, whilst remaining relaxed, focused and determined.

I know for some, these are just words. It really depends how you choose to interpret my words & indeed the events in your lives.

The image above is me, being introduced to my chemo chair for my first session. That morning I selected clothes that made me smile, wearing my new bob with confidence, knowing that my hair would only stay with me, now for a short while, once all the drugs kicked in.

Sure, I was nervous as hell, but I had no choice, I had to do this, not once, but repetitively. So I decided to manage it and incorporate it into my existence as if it was a visiting friend who had no real love or loyalty towards me.

As I sat on that chair and waited for the nurses to put a needle in my arm so that they could infuse me with the poison that chemo drugs are, I took 5 mins, just for myself!!!

I transported my mind to a place where I was able to breathe again, to remember who I was, the power, dignity & grace of little me. I purposefully fell into myself and my calm space, fully accepting the circumstances and truly believing that I was fine, I would be fine, I would find my way out of this. Who knew if I would be a better version of myself, as long as I was alive, it was all good.

I believe that during those minutes I decided exactly how I was going to tackle this illness, slowly, one baby step at a time, with knowledge, clarity & calm.

I was lucky to have the support of so many wonderful people including strangers whose kindness and love made me feel so humbled to be in their company, quite literally taking my breath away in gratitude & awe of them.

I still had to endure the chemo and subsequent radiotherapy, as gruelling as it was my survival tactic was to always take myself to my safe space. It has altered the long term mental affect treatment has had upon me to the extent that my endurance level to experience & overcome hardships has heightened. Essentially I’ve developed into someone in control of all that I experience, chosen or not.

MY HOPE —-its there, all the time, sitting in the depths of me waiting to be accessed. It was & will always be choice whether I choose to incorporate it so it affects the experiences of my life.

I choose HOPE every time, without hesitation. I want to smile each and every day a smile that comes from the depths of my Being whether shits happening to me or not.

SO for all of you that are going through some difficult, traumatic experience, I hope that this message reaches you, so you may be able to breathe and draw some comfort from the knowledge that there is always HOPE in You just waiting, ready to shift your perception, if you just choose it.

Draw upon it, use it, allowing it to change your personal experiences of events you really have no control over.