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Pathways

Life doesn’t always give us the opportunity to follow paths we choose.

Were regularly presented with unplanned routes not knowing where they lead.

Our perception, these journeys will be littered with difficulty, asking too much of ourselves!!

Sitting in my chemo chair in 2018, I was all smiles even though I intrinsically hated every minute of what was happening to me. Yet there, in my gut, I knew that there was a plan for me and ultimately this was MY journey.

Our life experiences offer such intricate insights, forcing the essence of our Beings to new unimaginable heights. They, whether it be in all their glory or despair, determine our stories.

So rather than being fearful, worried & anxious, I’ve learnt to wholly accept, the good and the bad. Staying focused, calm & positive throughout has allowed me to take each day, each experience with confidence. Chemo, ill health, accompanied by an assortment of life experiences as memorised by me throughout the years, have repeatedly taught me that, however difficult it may seem, its all good, it will all come good.

I will come through having experienced the real fullness of my life.

At the end of each experience there is an undeniable realisation that it the hiccups are just a process, a period of adaptation and commitment to something initially un-welcomed, unwanted but ultimately rewarding, rather than making it a struggle I have allowed it to be, done the very best I could and watch it unfold!!

From one to another, I do hope that whatever your path is, you find the rainbows that await you and taste the sweetest joy of knowing how capable and talented you truly are.

There can be no rainbows without the clouds, I know its cheesy but it is a natural fact.

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The Extraordinary Ordinary.

If you want to find true greatness, love & beauty.

Find it in the ordinary.

The silent details of each and every day.

As humans we always search and strive for more than we have, whether it be, greater wealth, a true love, talented children, a luxurious lifestyle etc. The list is endless.

We routinely and habitually forget, or choose not to acknowledge the blessings already afforded to us.

Our health, the love of our friends and family and the simple ability of being able to live our own lives, through certain choices, is a reason for celebration.

Appreciate the daily blessings each and every day will not only quieten your mind but give you the mental resource to expand your life into areas of complete and utter joy. So please, rather than looking outside, look into your own being, know who you are and what you have, I am absolutely sure, more of that beauty will naturally flow your way.

Its not easy to do, but I do feel it absolute necessary, in the interest of achieving a full, settled and happy life.

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Me, You, US ALL

My body, my JOURNEY,

My mind, my power,

My soul, my sanctuary,

My spirit, my saviour.

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Fear

DebilitatingĀ 

You will never move forward with fear, it will either take you BACK to the past or a dark place in the present, from where your unable to move forward.

DestructiveĀ 

It infects relationships, careers, dreams and ambition, that little seed, left unchecked will cripple you mentally and physically.

DamagingĀ 

Smashing self confidence, well being and failing to truly realising your true worth in this world.

Follow the rainbow that the clouds will give way to.

You and our time on this planet deserves so much more !!!

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A Love Story

Once there was a man and a woman.

Some would say she was spoilt and he was utterly stupid.

They met years ago.

But their relationship was only cemented, on that day,

when she asked him, in a harsh voice.

What am I to you?

In front of his entire family,

he thought, walked around her.

Then quietly, with an extraordinary sense of assurance,

he whispered a message in her ear,

which instantly made her cry

Silent tears that hit her,

to her core.

Then in a strong voice, he said,

sheā€™s my *biwi, my love, my future and smiled.

They were married

His family argued he was lost to her,

people that knew them, well enough,

knew, she was to him.

As they aged, whatever she asked, she received.

Her requests were always fulfilled.

And sure enough, he never gave her cause to feel let down.

We may not understand it, but this was their love story, which stood the test of time.

Remaining faithful and loyal, only to the other.

They never left the othersā€™ side and only saw each other,

in the decisions they made, until their time.

 

*biwi ā€“ Wife

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Change

The unfolding process of change, will lead you to unthinkable possibilities.

Chances of Hope.

Greet & celebrate changes, allow the possibilities to unfold.

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“Conscious Living” !!!

Aimlessly subjecting yourself to what life has to throw at you is NOT LIVING. Conscious living equals adopting practices that lead to self awareness, self sufficiency and empowerment.

It entails mentally and physically investing your time and thoughts into activities that allow you to evolve as an individual.

The result, you looking no further for answers or solutions but yourself.

The beauty, is the knowledge that you, you alone have the ability and power to improve & move forward with your hopes & dreams.

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MIND CLATTER

That’s what I call it, mind clatter.

The working of your mind focused on your to do list,Ā  pick up the groceries, need to order A,B,C…., wouldn’t it be nice if I managed to clean/clear this out……It doesn’t stop and its a daily habitual routine.

This is not LIVING, it is akin to acting like a human robot, regurgitating the same old without enjoyment of time or truly living and experiencing the days.

But I warn you now, it is one of the hardest tasks, to create new habits, to break down the old methods of doing things and re-learning, re-training your mind in the hope that you will live a more satisfied and fulfilled life.

Alas, that’s what my life cries out for, its non-negotiable, just as important as raising my son to the best of my abilities. I am determined to at least try.

When that clatter rears its ugly head in the back of my mind, I try and switch it OFF.

Choosing to live in the tiny moments that form my day, focusing my mind to truly experience, savour and devour those precious moments, whether that be feeling & breathing the air whilst walking the dog, creatively cooking a meal, savouring a sit down with a book and tea, beautiful details that that make up my days & ultimately my months & years. Memories of my life and the knowledge that it was lived in such a way that my heart jumped through the differing parts of routinely lived days.

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DON’T STOP, DO NOT GIVE UP OR GIVE IN

I have to get this message out there!

It is to important.

It’s one of the greatest lesson I’ve learned, particularly this last year and to be honest, i follow it now in the same way as i routinely get up every morning.

DON’T STOP, DO NOT STOP your day and just doing, i know the things you need to do will get done, but the things you love, i suspect they will be placed at the bottom of the list. Those chores that are necessary are done with in pilot mode, with little to no thought, the overriding purpose usually is to just get it done. Find joy in your ordinary, getting up at 6am is a blessing, eating the food you’ve cooked is to be savoured, walking the dog is an opportunity to feel the air in your face, the list can go on, if you just allow all these details to have a full & real effect on you, your perceptions, thoughts, feelings.

Don’t listen to that little voice in your head that questions your actions or firmly places your fear as a hurdle to you carrying out all that you hoped.

Ignore that voice and DO EXACTLY WHAT YOU HAVE IN YOUR MINDS EYE, FINISH IT & ALLOW IT TO MOVE YOU FORWARD. Not fulfilling every part of your being is nothing but damaging, its soul destroying.

THERE IS NO MUCH OUT THERE ON OFFER, countless options, ideas, thought processes that make you think and behave in an alternate way. Why personally & privately damage the very fibre of who you are and your very own potential.

We always find an excuse, a reason why we shouldn’t do something, the primary reasons usually include the following:_

Too hard

Inconvenient

Uncertainty

No time and or energy

It holds no promise of reward.

The list goes on, guaranteed we will find a reason!!

I promise you, you keep trying, you place all your efforts into your tasks which seek to better yourself, the rewards will come naturally.

I have a really bad habit of having a list of things to do and mindlessly going through that list until its complete. Through the process, i do nothing new, my actions are habitual, even the minor details. Guess what, i try nothing new so i don’t try and push myself to do things that I’ve never done before.

So, recently, i made a conscious decision to not only enjoy my tasks while actually completing them but to do things outside my comfort zone, like jogging up that hill rather than walking it, painting & sketching, something i haven’t done in years, or just trying a recipe my mother cooked so i could re-create them smells and feeling of nostalgia in my own home.

I do them things not for my son or husband, but selfishly for myself.

Why??? it leaves me feeling invigorated, like i am truly alive, i can do anything, i don’t have boundaries or a specific formula for my life. Every day has the potential of me learning something new. finding a skill i didn’t even know i had and growing, leaving me with more strings to my bow.

In truth, i don’t even want to recognise the old me, she holds no interest for me. I’m far more excited with truly living each and every day, each moment and my own dreams, whether they lead to something or not. The point, i enjoyed today!!!

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Stress….and those that give you stress.

ONE: Get away from them…..as far as possible.Ā 

TWO: Don’t absorb the stress, either being forced or offered.Ā 

THREE: Turn what can be a stressful situation on its head, consider it as an opportunity for change.

It sounds so simple, how can it be that simple ?

It really is that simple, but it is not simple acting out 1, 2 or 3, it is however, beneficial to follow the above steps in protecting your physical, emotional & mental well being.

The first task is to recognise it, acknowledge it and accept it with your eyes and a deeper understanding of a particular situation, environment, person, and then to just let it go.

Don’t over think it, play it over in your mind, dissect it, re-evaluate, question yourself & others, just accept it as being in existence, let it go and move forward knowing there will be a solution, an answer that will come in time.

Stress is a killer, it seeps into your body, mind & soul and slowly holds such power that it alters peoples mindsets, behaviours. reactions, thoughts and overall physical/mental well being.

There is always a choice, a choice to welcome & incorporate that event in complete acceptance so the stress falls away or to simply combat it by remaining clam, lucid & content.

I can hear it now, calm, content when faced with financial disaster, illness, or a really rough difficult few months. We have all been there, often, but truly realising that sleepless nights & driving yourself crazy would not change a thing, can only be the start of some form of healing.

On many occasions including being diagnosed I have automatically switched to warrior mode. I knew in that instance I risked fear of taking control that ultimately would lead to a slippery slope. So I regained my composure and figured out how best to deal with the Cancer & all the other events where my heart has been at risk of being damaged.

Thus I opened my arms to all those events, even greet it as if it was an old friend. Suddenly I regained a sense of control, clarity of mind and a certain peace that it was and will be ok.

Thats not to say there still wasn’t dark days but I, now recall tackling them head on, accepting the dark day but knowing another new day was just around the corner, waiting for me.

Now whatever happens, whether its regarded as good or bad, I automatically say its a blessing, that situation will allow me to step up, use my mind, consider my options and use my strengths in order to evolve.

Bad news for me leads to a shrug of the shoulders and getting on with the rest of MY day.